Respect for Elders and culture
Aboriginal culture is based on respect, for the land and for their elders.
Not showing respect is one of the biggest mistakes non-Aboriginal people do when interacting with Aboriginal culture.
When are Aboriginal people elders?
Aboriginal communities are hierarchal structures. Elders can be very powerful.
In some communities men and women are elders with equal standing; in others it may be a few men who hold that status .
Aboriginal people reveal their culture bit by bit to their younger generations. “You have to be initiated and trusted to be able to give another level of culture to [another] person,” says Aboriginal woman Kathy Balngayngu Marika .
At 54 years of age Kathy hasn’t discovered all layers of her culture yet. “I’m not even an elder,” she says. “People think I am because I have white hair, but I’m still a senior. I’m still learning. It takes a long time to be an elder.”
What have an XBox and an Aboriginal elder in common?
Both compete for the attention of young Aboriginal girls and boys, along with American culture on television and in cinemas.
“What hope is there for our existing Elders, especially those in rural and urban areas, to take our youth for walks into the bush to learn of the old ways or to sit around a camp fire on the banks of the river to hear of their connection to country,” asks Stephen Hagan, an Aboriginal author and academic .
“Our best chance of not totally losing our young to these contemporary competing interests is to tell our stories through another medium – book, stage or film – so when the time comes, and they’ve had their fill of modernity, it will be there for them.”
Fewer people respect elders
Lack of respect for elders is growing. Many elders in remote Northern Territory communities are highly intelligent and should be leaders. But they are not supported because they have lost the respect of their community. Young people see how non-Aboriginal people do not listen to them (for example those involved in the Northern Territory Intervention) and refuse to listen themselves .
Mainstream media coverage about cases of poor governance in Aboriginal organisations highlights the breakdown of the role that elders once, but no longer play in their communities.
Rex Japananka Granites says during his time in communities there were always council meetings to discuss with tribal elders what went on and who came into their community. This responsibility, he says, no longer exists .
“These people don’t respect our culture”
Following is an account by Mabel Tommy of the Yinhawangka people . She talks about the lack of respect in the community of Bindi Bindi, about 200kms north of Perth in Western Australia.
“We hate [Bindi Bindi]. People are drunk, and the kids go through your room and steal your things. Things that you really want to keep and have kept for years. They’d go through the cupboards and take anything. They go through the freezer and take all of the food. Nobody stops them, no mother stopped them, the fathers are busy drinking and don’t look after the kids who just go anywhere.”
“They always make noises and the big people have no feeling for the old people. They make a lot of noise, they never think the old people have to rest. Night and day they go, drinking and music going full bore. Nobody stops them, and that’s why I’m always growling at people at Bindi Bindi. I tell them, you fellas drink and don’t know how to look after your kids. I never did any of these things, we’d have got a big hiding from our old people. These people don’t respect our culture, nothing.”
How can I show my respect?
How can we feel a part of the Australian community, they don't give us the respect or the recognition?—Paula Weldon, Aboriginal women from Sydney 
If non-Aboriginal people respect Aboriginal culture and people they have overcome a big obstacle towards a dialogue between both cultures.
You can show your respect if you
- Learn about Aboriginal culture, for example by reading texts written by Aboriginal authors.
- Resist the urge to propose solutions for Aboriginal issues, but rather listen deeply. Too many people have tried telling Aboriginal people what’s best. “People make fantastic promises, then nothing happens. I was so used to being let down, I’d developed a shield,” says Kyol Blakeney, a young Aboriginal man .
- Ask questions during workshops or cultural events you visit.
- Avoid stereotypes. It’s very easy to offend by lightheartedly imitating Aboriginal stereotypes. When actress Nicole Kidman played the didgeridoo in a TV show it offended Aboriginal people as in many parts of Australia women are forbidden to play the instrument. (This includes Uluru (Ayers Rock) where didgeridoo lessons are only offered to male visitors.)
- Consult, consult, consult. A common mistake is not to consult with Aboriginal people. Ask, if you promote a certain area. Ask, if you make references to Aboriginal culture. Ask, if you use Aboriginal resources. Contact an Aboriginal Land Council for permissions and advice. Better be respected than sorry!
In one community they called the new government business manager "The Egg". On arrival he disappeared into his gleaming white new house, instructed not to mix with the locals, and everyone was waiting to see when he would be hatched and actually come out and talk! He didn’t want to hear what people were saying.—Don Palmer, CEO The Malpa Project 
Meeting Aboriginal people at a grass-roots level can also earn you respect. Mingle with them and treat them with the respect you hope to earn yourself.
Non-Aboriginal people working in remote Aboriginal communities often lack proper awareness of Aboriginal protocols. It has been suggested that these workers take part in cultural awareness training to qualify for a black card, similar to the “blue card” which qualifies people to work with children (through a police check) .
Black cards are already operational in Queensland’s Woorabinda Shire Council since October 2008.
For too long services have been coming into our community and telling us what we need. Now we are saying if you want to work in our community, this is what you need to do.—William Sullivan, Woorabinda Council, on the black card 
Consultation shows respect
Not consulting with Aboriginal people is a mistake many Australians do, from the ordinary Jack and Jane all the way through to top-level politicians.
How not to do it
When the Royal Hobart Hospital in Tasmania was to be renamed after a major upgrade, Aboriginal people learnt from a newspaper that one of the names considered was ‘Truganini Hospital’ . The proposal caused an outcry among them.
Truganini is an important woman in Tasmanian Aboriginal history who witnessed the genocide of her people. She died in 1876.
This idea [of proposing 'Truganini Hospital'] arose without consultation with the Aboriginal community and is offensive, and paternalistic.—Sara Maynard, state secretary, Tasmanian Aboriginal Centre 
The right way
Qantas ran a very successful campaign, “I Still Call Australia Home”, from 1997 to 2009. One of the commercials of the campaign opens with an Aboriginal boy from the Torres Strait, Tyus Arndt, sing a rendition of the first verse of the song in his native Aboriginal language.
Qantas showed huge respect in their preparation of this clip. They ensured that the song’s lyrics were translated and approved in the appropriate way by consulting with members of the Torres Strait Islands community. Qantas sought endorsement of the interpretation by a tribal chief. Other Aboriginal communities were consulted regarding the use of the song on, and filming access to locations on their lands .
Watch the clip and try to find out where in Australia Tyus is standing:
Last updated: 29 October 2013
 'Elders the key, says barrister', Koori Mail 506 p.8
 'Black card idea gets thumbs up', Koori Mail 457 p.7
 'Karijini Mirlimirli', Noel Olive, Fremantle Arts Centre Press 1997 p.60
 'It's a sick idea', Koori Mail 397 p.5
 'Do you feel part of the 'Australian' community?', Koori Mail 393 p.41
 'Trust, tension and tradition', SMH Spectrum 1/10/2011 p.6
 'Two of us', SMH Good Weekend 5/11/2011 p.10
 Reconciliation News 12/2009 p.4
 'The evil within', SMH 19/1/2013
 'Not bleeding hearts, just the bleeding obvious', Don Palmer, inaugural Sydney University Red Cross Society Lecture, 16/8/2011
 'Warlpiri Elder wants his responsibilities returned!', Central Australian Aboriginal Media Association 17/10/2013